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Confronting adult peer pressure

Tuesday, December 6th, 2011

adult peer pressure and tips on handling it

 

There are a few things I’ve been surprised we don’t leave behind after emerging from the angst ridden teen years.

Pimples (they merge with wrinkles & become pinkles).

Competing with each other (We still do this? Haven’t we realized there’s room enough for us all to succeed?).

Peer pressure.

I’d been fortunate enough to avoid the last one for close to two decades.  I don’t get out enough to experience drinking pressure (a post for another day).  I’ve also lead my ‘new healthy life’ for so long most people can’t imagine me another way.

As a result, it surprised me to experience overt peer pressure at a recent holiday gathering.

Have some bread!  A new friend offered.

No thanks.  I responded. I felt no need to bore her with details of my gluten-related rashes and swelling.

No really. Have some! It’s great bread.  I bought it at XYZ Bakery!

Thanks so much for offering. I don’t eat gluten.  I can’t tolerate it.

Come on. Have some.  (rips off a piece)  Just a little bite.  It’s (pauses for a moment) special gluten free bread!

The interaction continued, but you get the gist of the situation.

More than being annoyed it started me thinking about the concept of adult peer pressure.

Substitute the word beer for gluten and you practically have an anti-drinking anti-peer pressure PSA.

The more I pondered, too, the more I realized I probably was not alone in experiencing this at holiday gatherings.

I’ve finally reached the age where I’ve learned a moment of not being true to myself and listening to my body is not worth the resulting days of suffering.

I spent the first two decades of my life gagging down foods I didn’t care for and doing things I knew wouldn’t agree with my body all in the name of not hurting people’s feelings and wanting to fit in.

At 42 I’m finished with all that and want to share with you my plan for approaching the peer pressure laden holiday season.

  • Practice firmly saying no.  Be ready & rehearsed with your reasons behind the no if you’d like (weight-loss, health, food allergies, etc), just be sure you have a confident and polite no at the ready.  Many of my clients had eating plans derailed merely because they came across as uncertain in their food choices.  Well-meaning friends and family members interpreted this faltering as an opportunity for discussion and debate.
  • Don’t look for excuses and reasons to blame.  If your NO is not food allergy related (which people are realizing can be life or death), but purely healthy living enter into gatherings with your mindset in place.  Are you committed to staying healthy this holiday season? Know your definition of healthy when you enter peer-pressure filled situations and have a plan.  No matter whether your plan is to bring healthy options to share or take a walk (& a break from family-time) when dessert is served it helps to plan ahead when faced with possible pressure.  Don’t subconsciously leave yourself an ‘out’ and look for a person upon whom to pin the blame.
  • Remind yourself it is not about you.  Yes, you need to remain steadfast in your beliefs not to be swayed by peers.  That said when others are wholly at ease with their choices they won’t pressure you to join them.
  • Don’t accidentally be the one pressuring!  Are you a new convert to healthy living? Did you just discover gluten free eating? Have you finally made a full conversion to veganism? It can be a challenge not to want to share these facts with everyone you encounter.  Remember, there’s a fine line between sharing I love the way I’m living now! and becoming the unintended pressurer.

All of the tips above are my thoughts and reactions to a recent situation.

I’d love to hear your experiences, thoughts & tips for combating adult peer pressure.

I’m always on the lookout for more to add to my arsenal.

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The importance of breakfast to your metabolism

Monday, July 11th, 2011

Are you like me and you hop out of bed each morning ravenous and ready for breakfast? Or do you get through the morning with just a hot cup of coffee and absolutely no interest in that first meal of the day? It always surprises me when I hear from clients who skip breakfast in an effort to cut calories and lose weight, or because they’re convinced that they are not hungry and “couldn’t possibly eat anything in the morning.” The way I see it, breakfast is another opportunity in the day to eat delicious food!, and it’s also a meal where you can fill up on necessary nutrients. But one point that always seems to appeal to people is breakfast’s ability to get your metabolism moving – that’s your body’s calorie-burning mechanism.

But how does breakfast boost metabolism?

Think back to last night’s dinner. Maybe you ate around 7pm, and then your body digested and metabolized the food. Overnight while you were sleeping, your metabolism slowed down to an even hum, constantly working but at a more resting pace. Your metabolism won’t kick into high gear again – burning fuel (calories) at a faster rate – until you wake up and feed it in the morning. Think of it like fueling a car by putting gasoline into an empty tank or throwing a log on a dying fire for an added spark to get it burning again. However, if you skip breakfast and hold off eating until lunch, that’s an extra five or so hours of your morning when you’re letting your metabolism cruise along at a sluggish pace. Why not use it at its peak calorie burning capacity!? Breakfast is the jump start your body needs and the energy boost to power your day.

You don’t need to have a huge sit down breakfast buffet. Even a half of a granola bar, handful of nuts, a few bites of leftovers from dinner, or snack bag of fresh fruit on the go will do the trick if you eat within an hour or so of waking up. You may find eating in the AM actually makes you hungrier. This is a good thing! It’s your body’s way of telling you it’s rearing to go, and that your metabolism is revving. Keep listening to your body by feeding it with healthful foods when it’s hungry, and stopping when it’s full. But always remember the benefits of breakfast.

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Learning the hard way: listening to your body, a perspective

Friday, July 1st, 2011

 

The proverb goes, “you are what you eat.”

How does this translate into an everyday experience? All month in June, we have been writing about the importance of listening to your body, of recognizing the body has its own wisdom. Each of us gets the opportunity to learn to listen and if we do, what do our bodies say to us?

I’m hungry. I’m not hungry- I’m thirsty. I need to run. I need to rest.

Once we start listening, we realize how gabby our bodies truly are. A few years ago I began learning the mysteries and truths of my body and actually of my family history in my body. Recently, this has been put to the test.

During a vacation earlier this year, we spent long blissful days at the beach. I woke up excited to wade my way back into the ocean and body surf. My cousin and I spent endless hours in the surf and I became smitten. In spite of heat rash, I lathered on more sunscreen refusing to stay in the shade, out of the water. In the afternoons we would walk to a neighboring beach through a slender alcove of ancient steps past a deserted hotel. From there, we would walk the long stretch of sand to the neighboring town and treat ourselves to a cold refreshment of coconut water or on the rare occasion to homemade ice cream. I never felt winded from our long walks, but definitely felt a strain on my ankle and flat flat feet.

My family noticed at the end of the day that I found it difficult to walk, hobbling from the kitchen into the living room of the house we were staying in. With a shrug of the shoulders, I said everything would be okay tomorrow. And for the most part it was.

Until it wasn’t.

A few days after I returned home, I found myself walking across the office and a sharp pain seared my hip. I stood erect, frozen, unable to go forward or back. All of a sudden, with the clarity of hindsight, I began keening inward, listening to my body’s simple instructions. “Go back to your desk and sit. Get off your leg.”

It had never been this bad before. After hours and days in past years standing at tradeshows, working the floor during busy shifts at the restaurant in years past, I’d never experienced this exact message. In retrospect, there had been yellow flags, but I hastily put blinders on, thinking myself impervious. This time, I visited three doctors- including one who gave me a shot in my hip that did nothing to assuage the pain. I diligently set and met appointments with a physical therapist for three months, but he sought to heal my back. All along my body kept telling me in a voice I perceived to be quiet that the problem lay with my hip. To confirm this, I visited a former and trusted physical therapist / chiropractor from many years back who told me what I had intuited.

It was time to move on.

A few weeks ago, I began making pretty drastic changes in what goes into my mouth. While we eat pretty clean foods in my house, we began to address eating in terms of the idea of taking care of health and trying to address inflammation. See, I personally believe that food can heal and it can harm. I am in process of trying to change my palate and curb my cravings with healthier substitutes. I am trying to listen to my body when it says, “asparagus” and “salad” instead of “sandwich”- not that there’s anything bad with a sandwich. I’m just trying to be a better listener and becoming even more of a stalwart label reader. My body is telling me to slow down and so I have to obey it now (even though I disobeyed a few weeks ago and did a small amount of Zumba- and paid the price).

Healing takes time.

It involves listening, not just to the doctors that are trying to discern the root of the problem, but to your body with its deep wisdom. It requires patience in the impatient. So while I’m planning to see another orthopedist, I’m thinking about food differently and considering the possibility that food can be a good medicine.

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